Today, Jeremy Donham, an attorney from Central Pennsylvania who specializes in Christian divorce, discusses the impact of divorce on family finances and basic contracts.
Many people today are faced with almost insurmountable debt and their resources are spread so thinly that practically any emergency, such as the loss of a job, a prolonged illness, or a bad purchase (like a “Lemon”), may effectively destroy their ability to maintain solvency – not to mention family harmony.
It is at times like these when most of my clients contact me to talk about their circumstances. Now, mind you, the reason they come to see a divorce lawyer is not always precipitated by financial difficulties, but most if not all my cases revolve around financial troubles and their impact upon the relationship. Sometimes it’s the proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back but nonetheless, the stress upon the American family is at an increasingly high level and few have the skills to find their way through the maze of relationship disorder and divorce.
Religious families often have the added struggle of trying to deal with the realities of the life through the prism of their faith. This can carry a vast number of ethical and family values implications. Add financial breakdown to the stress, and one may easily lose the faith in which they have so entrusted their personal and family life. Expectations are so high when young couples are wed, and then most try to achieve unrealistic marital goals – an admirable trait, but one that has no basis in the real world.
Now this is certainly not meant to disparage the beauty that is often found in the fabric of lovely couples we all admire and esteem. But what happens when one is caught in a position of compromise, or struggling with professional and family life balance? What about the family that seems to have it all together, but suddenly the reality of their struggles and discontent reveal a more introspective look into the unfortunate but undoubted consequence of having expectations that are too high – either in faith itself or in the Christian marital experience?
Your faith can make a tremendous difference in your marriage and family life but let’s face it, sometimes things come into our world and we must face the reality that everything we believed is compromised by the frustratingly relevant issues that plague the American family as well as those around the world.
What can be done to help? Especially when we have to deal with the fallout of financial breakdown of perhaps poor judgment, high expectations, and real world issues that must be faced and dealt with accordingly.
That is where a law firm with a desire to minimize the damage to the family and maintain strong resources can reform the structure of how the family does business. It doesn’t always have to be in the context of divorce, but in many cases individuals and their children are unable to resolve their family matters significantly enough to stay together.
Our goal is to provide a way to address these issues at length and to discuss all the possibilities. It is possible to have two people who can find peace and harmony in spite of the often egregious nature of the adversarial court process. Sometimes court is only used as a formality to gain an order supporting what the parties have been able to resolve themselves through mediation or some other form of collaborative arrangement.
The equitable distribution aspect of divorce requires the parties to be educated on what can be considered assets for marital property or assets that are not considered for that purpose. Parties are able to resolve many things amicably with a non-passive advocate who also contends for the rights of their client.
The distributive aspects of divorce and property involve real property valuations and distribution and personal property like vehicles that become a weight to the process by virtue of the fact that they are not running properly and should be designated a “lemon.” All of these areas must be clearly reviewed and accurately considered so that the best outcome may be proffered to the benefit of both parties.
It doesn’t change the fact that divorce happens whether you are a person of faith or not, but the numbers suggest that people are divorcing in great percentages for a myriad of different reasons. Don’t let your circumstances be misjudged or disvalued. You need an attorney who cares about your situation and is ready to give you zealous advocacy. One who understands faith and ethics and the implications of those matters during this difficult transition.